Your Ex Becoming your friend again.....yes ...no maybe

1# Understand the unconscious mind.

It is proven that men often pull back when they get into an argument, this is a defense mechanism that is triggered by the unconscious mind to protect them they get vulnerable. Vulnerability makes a guy feel anxious feelings which is something most people will try to avoid. The physiological effect of retreating will show in lower heartbeat which will make the guy more relaxed. But retreating makes everything worse.

Woman will respond unconsciously to the guys cowardice retreat, which will have a physiological effect on her as well, her heartbeats will increase so will the blood pressure. She will start to get more passionate and things escalate even further because the man is not responding.

2# A real man is indifferent and understanding

Nomatter what the argument is about, you need to participate and give her your opinion. An argument is not about convincing someone, but about explaining your opinion and feelings on the subject matter. Tell her that you understand what she's saying, but you have a different opinion. A real man is not affected by the outcome of the discussion.

3# Vulnerability the right way

Even though there might be areas that makes a guy uncomfortable a real man needs to be vulnerable through facing his fears and overcoming his anxieties. A real man views things from an objective perspective, and tries to understand what is going on so he can act the most beneficial way to both parts. If he doesn't understand something, he will be honest and communicate that because, if you fake it, you won't make it.This is really important if you still have feeling for them then it will only hurt you even more i speak from expirence

1     Don't rush. To start with, it's never a smart idea to become best friends right after the break up. Once people have been in a relationship, and the relationship ends, both need to give each other some space to process the break up, overcome sadness, etc. This can take 2 weeks or 4 months, you never know. But it's really important to get over the breakup; you don't want any one of you having hard feelings towards the other. The fact that you want to be only friends means that all feelings that may be left over MUST be eliminated- yes, that's hard but it's the way it will be.

2     See where you both stand. Do you secretly wish you would get together with your ex partner, or do you really only want to be friends? It's also good to know what your ex wants or needs. When you know where you both stand, you can figure out if a friendship is ever going to work. For example, if one of you guys wants to get together, and the other one only wants to say 'hi, how are you' once a while, that's doomed to go wrong.

3    Think about why you broke up. Would you start a new friendship with someone of the same sex whom you resent? You do not need a bad relationship to become a bad friendship so make sure you evaluate whether in fact, you think this person would make a good friend vs whether you just don't want to miss them.

4     Consider the case that both want to stay friends; start off slow. Don't expect it all to be happy and cheerful the first few conversations. The break up probably still feels a little awkward, and you can't just get over it right away. So start easy, talking about how it's going and what's new. Try to avoid the subject of current relationships- either it will give hints that you what to get back with the person and are scouting the 'enemy' or it will just be awkward.

5    Gradually talk more, maybe go do something together, grab a coffee or something. Before you both know it, you'll be friends again. But remember, make sure you both want to be friends, and you both expect the same thing from each other. Make sure no one feels awkward at your Starbucks date or something.

6    Accept what happens. If your ex doesn't want to stay friends, or does want to stay friends but gets into a new relationship after a while, you can't convince him/her to do it your way. to be honest, A person isn't worth it if they can't look at you in the eye and forget what happened in the past. If they don't want to be friends, forget it then.